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I’ve never really been one for taking the advice of TV Talk Show Hosts - especially those that dispense psychological insights (babble) and opinions (crap) - but something rang true for me with this email forwarded to me by a friend dispensing the advice of Dr. Phil on achieving inner piece.  I am not sure of the original source of this email, but I must applaud them on recognizing sound advice when they heard it.

Photo by Kevin Van Lierop

CALMNESS IN OUR LIVES

I am passing this on to you because it definitely works, and we could all use a little more calmness in our lives. By following simple advice heard on the Dr. Phil show, you too can find inner peace.

Dr. Phil proclaimed, ‘The way to achieve inner peace is to finish all the things you have started and have never finished.’

So, I looked around my house to see all the things I started and hadn’t finished, and before leaving the house this morning , I finished off a bottle of Merlot, a bottle of White Zinfandel, a bottle of Bailey’s Irish Cream, a bottle of Kahula, a package of Oreos, the remainder of my old Prozac prescription, the rest of the cheesecake, some Doritos and a box of chocolates. You have no idea how freaking good I feel.

Please pass this on  to those whom you think might be in need of inner peace.

So my dear readers, I must now leave you, as I too begin my quest to tranquility. Embracing the advice of the great doctor, I need to be honest about the state of my affairs and I too have things I have started and not finished.  Specifically right now these include a bottle of Sanduz Estate Blueberry / Cranberry wine (figure it is always important to experiment with the creations of our local entrepreneurs), a bottle of Merridale Cidar (the large size, of course), a litre of chocolate milk, a bag of crisps (don’t worry - they are both organic and trans fat free), and a couple of nicely marinated slaps of meat.  Thinking an early night may be in order after I have achieved inner piece.

Nightie night!

My dear readers,

I must apologize about our lack of posts these past few weeks, but us gals have been a little distracted by those hot, hot summer nights.  You understand I am sure ;-). 

Photo by Tim O’Brien

I have also, personally been distracted by a few requests to build a community for Sexy In Van City.  So have been playing with a few community / forum applications, but I can’t say that I have found one yet that I like the look and feel of.  Would love it if any of you, dear readers, could suggest a community / forum application that you have enjoyed using.  You can respond below or email me at emme@sexyinvancity.com.

Hope you too are enjoying some ohhhh so “hot” summer nights!  And hoping with the advent of a forum that you too can share some of those stories with us in the near future!

Kisses,

Emme

Yesterday someone asked me where women meet men in this city.  Perhaps I have spent too much time glued to the computer.  My immediate response was online dating. According to MSN’s  Love Online: A Report on Digital Dating in Canada, I am not alone.   The amount of people meeting online has increased.

The top four reasons were:

1. A growing proportion of the population is composed of singles, the main pool for online dating.

2. Career and time pressures are increasing, so people are looking for more efficient ways of meeting others for intimate relationships.

3. Single people are more mobile due to the demands of the job market, so it is more difficult for them to meet people for dating.

4. Workplace romance is on the decline due to growing sensitivity about sexual harassment.

That was not the answer this someone wanted.  For a moment I was stumped.  I asked if I could get back to him. After mulling over the possibilities, here is my response.

Q: Where to Meet Men in Vancouver?

A: Anywhere.

Start your quest for Mr. Right by looking at yourself.  Ask yourself the following questions: What part of the city do I live in?  What parts of the city do I enjoy spending time in?  What activities do I enjoy?  When someone asks me for a date, when do I have time to date?

The answers to these questions help guide you to someone that has similar lifestyle choices to you. There are many places to meet men. You need to know if they are the right type of men for you.

* S told me that she met tons of guys at a cowboy bar in Langley.  So why doesn’t S date these guys?

1. She lives in Vancouver.

2. She doesn’t like to drive outside the city.

3. She doesn’t like country music.

4. She hates suburbia.

It comes down to lifestyle choices.  When I asked S what type of activities she enjoyed, she told me fine wine, martinis and shopping.  When asked who she could recruit as a wingman, she decided to call on the family.   Her brother brought her to one of the special men’s shopping nights at the Bay Downtown.  She spent the evening meeting her brother’s friends, sampling martinis and checking out a fashion show.  Through her brother’s friends, she found out about a social networking site that holds events for like minded people to mingle.

She joined www.urbanmixer.com and participated in several of their events, where through one of her new found friends, she met her husband.

Body Language: Creating the Approach

Smile. Smile. Smile.  Holding eye contact with someone you find attractive lets someone know that you want him to approach.  Double check your body language.  Good posture is not only great for your health, it also portrays confidence.   Occasionally the potential Mr. Right might not approach.  He might be in a relationship or he might be shy.  Sometimes the opportunity for him to approach isn’t possible based on circumstances.

* C told me that she should start going to church so she could meet a “nice” guy.  She wasn’t entirely kidding.  She spent some time singing in a gospel choir.  When her best friend called and invited her to watch the choir perform, she met a guy who caught her eye.  C spent most of the concert, singing and dancing from the audience.  While she remembered how much value this particular activity brought to her life, she continued to make eye contact with the choir guy. After the concert, choir guy approached her.  Unfortunately she was bombarded by other choir members who were delighted to see her.  She smiled at choir guy who introduced himself and said good bye.

Taking Initiative

Usually I recommend setting up the opportunity for a man to take the initiative.  Historically men are hunters and it is important to let them make the first move.  Occasionally it is worth taking the initiative and seeing if you strike gold.   C decided to rejoin choir.  Although she found choir boy intriguing, this was not an attempt to stalk him.  Depending on your point of view, C cyber stalked him.  She found the facebook group set up by the choir members and there he was.  She sent him a facebook message telling him she enjoyed meeting him.

CG (choir guy)  returned her message and asked her if she would like to go for a drink.  When they met for a drink, they talked.  After one date it is too soon to decide if it will result in love and marriage, but the date may not have happened if C didn’t take the initiative.

So next time someone tells you there are no men in Vancouver, tell them to check out Kittyn’s top 5 tips:

1. Do your homework – decide what suits your lifestyle.

2. Go out and check out events that genuinely interest you and support your lifestyle choices.  Even if you feel shy, be open and friendly.  You never know who you might meet.

3. Create a support network.  Let friends and familly members know that you are on the market.

4. Don’t be afraid to show that you find someone appealing.  They might feel the same way.

5. If that doesn’t work, go back to the drawing board.  You may need to hire a lifestyle or dating coach.

* Or talk to me. Happy Hunting!

The Firefly was definitely the one to follow as far as Banff Night Life was concerned. I don’t know how she did it, but she actually managed to turn the Rundle Lounge into the ‘hotspot’ of the festival, post Tuesday night’s barbecue. It certainly didn’t hurt that she had the English Cherry, a British Cock, the crazy Saskatchewan delegation and the Wild Cowgirl with her entire male entourage in tow. And the pianist, Michael Sicoly, certainly rose to the occasion, belting out a lively array of tunes to keep the room a rock’n. He even played with his feet at one point (at least I think it was his feet - although I must admit my recollections can’t be trust as I was taken up by the moment). Well, and quite admittedly, I was a little distracted by the antics of the Firefly.

The Firefly was literally alight and my guess, was causing a fire in more than one of the fellows. I nearly keeled over with laughter when I entered the Rundle Lounge to find her doing a little number on the grand staircase leading down from the ballroom above. One leg up on the banister, she tossed her hair round in the air and ever so gracefully swiveled her leg off the banister and swaggered her way down the stairs in true wild west saloon gal style! It was a hoot! The men were lined up, clambering to buy her a drink. And to make it even funnier, all she wanted was a water. Teddy, a little bolder than the rest (and with good reason - he knows he is one of her favorites and is loved), grabbed her and tossed her into the air and she didn’t miss a beat, but rather used it to transition into her floor (and piano) dancing number. Even the pianist became a part of the act.

I don’t ever remember seeing the Firefly have such grace or moves. All I can say is I have got to find out who her dance teacher is! Those lessons were definitely worth every penny. And I am thinking that it may be time that the Firefly broadened her horizons beyond the children’s programs. Those moves might be better served on screen in a bit of a different genre.

In festival tradition, the night wrapped up high on top of the Springs, in the Marilyn Monroe turned Oasis Party Suite. I will stop writing here as there is something about this suite that has a habit of turning a movie from PG to X-rated. Just ask Sid and Teddy - they were caught ’swinging’ from the chandelier in the Marilyn Monroe boudoir last year. Although they might claim that had something to do with the lightning, this writer would suggest otherwise.

Love always,

Emme

PS The two videos below highlight a few of the places mentioned. The Rundle Lounge in the Marilyn Monroe video and ironically, the Marilyn Monroe Suite in the Fairy Princess Video. Both are seen following this post under the category “The Gals”

Marilyn Monroe at the Fairmont Banff Springs Hotel

Fairy Princesses Explore the Fairmont Banff Springs Hotel

The princesses can be seen gazing out of the window of the Marilyn Monroe bedroom towards the end and then dancing through the rest of the suite.

The festival night life got off to a much more mellow start this year. Must have been all that time Sid and I spent on the golf course and in the hot springs. It wasn’t a bad thing though. I am at a stage now where many of the Banff Regulars have become part of my extended family and the festival in many ways is like a bit of a homecoming or reunion. Thus Sid and I enjoyed a quiet Sunday night in Banff standards. We found a table at the Canamedia Anniversary Party at the Rose and Crown, and the party and, of course the hugs, came to us. I don’t know what it is about Banff, but despite the many sharks that this industry attracts, it also attracts some of the most fabulous, warm, protective, and hilarious souls out there. And I feel very fortunate to have been embraced by a number of those characters. I also love the fact that with each year, another two or three people are added to that list. This year I’d like to think that I have added another three to that group - an English Cherry, a British Cock and a Wild Saltwater Cowgirl.

Monday night was a bit wilder, but with a relaxed, mellow tone. Rather than following or leading the party - I simply created my own party. Dancing to the great band from the Awards Gala. Singing along to the guitar in the Rundle Lounge with the Firefly, the Wild British Rose and Andrea and Lee of Canamedia. Finishing the night off by joining Don from Finale for a pint at the St. James’s.

Photo by Shawn Duffy

Speaking of the St. James’s, I did spot one van sexy up to a bit of mischief on the Sunday night. Not mentioning any names, but this newfie actually had the balls to take a full pint of Guiness out of the Rose and Crown, walk down the street with it, bypass the line out front of the St James’s with it and waltz in through the St James’s Gate’s kitchen, pint still in hand. To make it even funnier she actually managed to get a preacher’s wife (of all people) to follow suit!!!

Good times! Good times!

Love Emme

Kitty Cat Dance

Just because this has to be shared!

And if you don’t laugh, then you may just lose your “sexyin” status. Sorry!

At sexyinvancity, we’ve always had our eyes on the oh so van sexy Miss Megan Cole of Canada Bombshell and Bridging Media, knowing how this girl could move and shake things up. We’ll after Monday in Banff, Miss Megan Cole even shocked us with her moves. All in one day this girl managed some one on one time with the who’s who on the television screen.

She even managed some face time with the sexiest of the Sex and the City gals, none other than Kim Cattrall. This interview confirmed what I had long suspected - Hollywood’s sexiest stars are BC gals - not all born, but certainly raised - and more specifically, Vancouver Island gals. Yes, Kim Cattrall, like Pamela Anderson and Nellie Frittata calls Vancouver Island home. And like our sexy in van gals, I was excited to discover that this BC gal hasn’t only perfected her strutt for the cameras, but is as savvy as she is sexy.

Watch on my lovelies …… (Video clips following this post - under the category of “The Gals”)

Kim Cattrall at Banff World TV Festival 2008